Being from the northeast, one of my favorite things to experience is the change of seasons. To be honest, I’m not really sure I have a favorite season. I enjoy that moment of transition from one season to the next, when all my senses are delighted by the gradual shifts that are occurring around me. Each season has a scent, a vision, a feeling, a taste, a musical soundtrack that comes with it. It’s a time to start fresh, reevaluate and set new intentions for the coming months. It’s fun to play around with the change in fashion, accessories and makeup that each season brings. Creativity starts to flow and I feel a sense of reawakening.
This idea of renewal is also about letting go of that which no longer serves you and moving forward. It’s important to learn the lessons, uncover the gifts each hardship has provided you and be open to where you are being intuitively guided to next. However, another virtue of letting go is the idea of forgiveness. For the longest time, this was one of the hardest things for me to accept and actually follow through with, especially when I felt I was truly wronged in some way. I couldn’t imagine letting someone off the hook if deep in my heart I knew either they weren’t remorseful and/or that their actions were intentional.
It was a constant struggle for me because I knew the only way to truly move on is to genuinely forgive. Not just say I forgive and still feel resentment inside but sincerely forgive from the bottom of my heart. Over the last year, I have been actively working on my personal development. One of the greatest lessons I have learned through this work to date, is that forgiveness comes more easily when you can look at the situation and truthfully determine the biggest gift that person (or conflict) has given you.
It was such a subtle shift in perspective, but to me that was a HUGE moment of clarity. Discovering that key insight is what allowed me to fully embrace and be grateful for any conflict I was going through, even more so, to accept and to forgive so I could finally put it behind me. Whatever the situation is, I can now look at it from a different viewpoint.
Side note -- you can give forgiveness without having to even say anything to that person depending on what the actual situation is. It’s really up to you and what feels the most authentic to you. It’s different for everyone. The whole idea is for you to come to peace with it, embrace the gift and let go of any resentment because now you have a newfound appreciation for what happened. It really does work and for me that is just the mindset shift I needed at just the right time. Conflicts are put in your path to teach you the hard lessons but to ultimately awaken your soul to endless possibilities.
Embrace the conflicts in your life just as you would the change of seasons. It’s a time for renewal and letting go.
A few helpful tips for letting go and embracing change...
* Create space for new opportunities and ideas. Surround yourself with like-minded, goal oriented, inspirational people that support and encourage you to pursue your dreams. Join a community with similar interests and start to engage with others outside your immediate social circles. The more you invite connection and community in your everyday life, the more you will start to see real progress towards your life/business/relationship goals.
* Reflect and be grateful for special memories. Change isn’t always about letting go of everything in your past. It is also important to look at all the great stuff you have going on and the deep-rooted relationships you have nurtured over the years whether it’s with close family members, friends, co-workers, business associates, partners, etc. The special bonds and memories will live with you always. Be grateful and appreciative of your past experiences and the moments you shared along the way. If you stop to think about it, you will realize how lucky you truly are.
* Be proud of all your accomplishments, you’ve come a long way. Where were you a year ago, 3 years ago, or 5 years ago? When you are in the daily grind it is sometimes hard to see how far you have come. Take a moment to look back at the goals you achieved and all you have accomplished throughout the years. It may not seem like it in the moment but when you realize all you have been through (yes even the challenges) it is really something to be proud of. And with this newfound perspective on forgiveness you may now be able to look back at certain conflicts in your life and see it as another major accomplishment.
* Take a road trip. What better way to shake things up and get you out of your usual surroundings but a random road trip! It doesn’t have to be a long thought out plan. In fact, most of the time it’s better when you wing it. Even if it’s only a day trip. Get in your car (or a friend’s car, train, bus, whatever) and pick a destination that is within a reasonable distance. The point here is to enjoy the scenery, make stops along the way, explore a new location and maybe even get a little lost. It’s usually the unplanned most random moments which make the best stories (sometimes better after the fact).
* Mix it up. If you can’t take a road trip, then try switching things up to break your normal routine. Go for a picnic in the park by yourself (weather permitting). This is one of my fave solo activities to do. Bring a good book, blanket and some snacks. Once you get over the solo part, you will realize how enjoyable and relaxing it can be. You can also change up your daily commute in some way or try a cooking class. Anything to get you out of your usual comfort zone.
I’m curious. What do you like about the change of seasons? What types of activities or seasonal outings do you look forward to? Or tell me about a recent road trip you went on. Where did you go? Did you discover something new? Tell me in the comments.